The personality trait that could kill you
"My wife told me to come in."
I can't tell you how many times I've heard that one -- and it looks like I'm not the only one.
New research confirms that what I see here at the Stengler Center is happening all over the country: Most guys won't visit the doctor unless there's a limb missing or at least a quart of blood on the floor.
Even then, these bull-headed men often wait for the wife to practically ORDER them to see a doctor.
What can I say? Listen to the ladies. Or better yet, don't let it reach that point -- because no less than three new studies find that those "manly" men who refuse to see a doctor even when they need one often suffer from serious health problems as a result.
The studies also confirm something else I see here in my own clinic: Getting him through the door is only half the battle.
Once inside, men don't always come clean about what's wrong. Some beat around the bush, downplay their symptoms, or ask about something else entirely. If they mention the REAL problem at all, it's only in passing.
Put it all together, and this turns into a very real threat to your health -- because when you delay treatment or aren't honest about what's wrong, your problem could get worse.
And the longer it goes on, the harder it is to treat.
In some cases, it could be too late.
Yes, "death by stubbornness" is all too real, and the researchers even believe the refusal to get help and failure to talk about what's really wrong could help explain at least in part why men die nearly five years sooner than women.
Don't get too smug about this, ladies.
"Brave" and "self-reliant" are admirable qualities, but the studies find women who value them the most tend to be a little more like men... and not in a good way. If you're one of them, you may not delay seeking care as much, but you still delay -- and that could also have serious consequences for your health.
So here's the real deal, for men and women alike: Ask and it shall be given to you.
When something is wrong, seek help. Visit your doctor, and be honest with him while you're in the clinic.
We're here to help, after all, but we CAN'T help if you don't tell us what's wrong... or don't even come into the office.
Remember, there's nothing "brave" or "manly" about slowly dying of a condition that could've been treated easily if you'd sought help.
And there's absolutely nothing "macho" about dying five years too soon.